The ‪#‎Polarized‬ Relationship:
-Roles, feelings, and behaviors are polarized.
EXAMPLE: one feels more and more dependent and craves connection, the other craves separation and independence.

The ‪#‎Flip‬-Flop Relationship:
-You adopt the role of your lover in a previous relationship in your current relationship.
EXAMPLE: if you were cheated on in a previous relationship, you become the cheater in a new relationship.

The ‪#‎Pseudo‬-Relationship:
-Due to past trauma and previous failed relationships, you create a scenario with another person or persons that appears like a relationship but really isn’t one.
EXAMPLE: the sitcom “Three’s Company.”

The ‪#‎Madonna‬-Whore Relationship:
-The sexual cannot be combined with the emotional in one’s romantic partner. This represents significant unresolved Oedipal issues (i.e., the erotic connection and erotic
energy are directed toward a non-supportive other).

The ‪#‎Isolate‬ Relationship:
-A person is quite unsure about bonding and forming an intimate relationship, often for both conscious and unconscious reasons. This is often seen in highly capable people who were the black sheep in their families.
-Bonding with another is something the person sees as disrupting from themselves.

The ‪#‎Sadomasochistic‬ Relationship:
-One projects onto his/her partner characteristics of their past relationships. This leads to misperception, mood swings, and overreacting.

The ‪#‎Re‬-traumatization Relationship:
-This is the parasite metaphor: one projects into their partner the “parasites” from his/her past & the other takes these in & actually becomes a previously traumatizing
person.
-This leaves the partner who put the labels of past relationship on their current partner thinking, “Here we go again …. All men ARE this way…

The ‪#‎Detouring‬ Relationship
-A third person is drawn into a current or unresolved triangle in order to “detour” what has not been resolved by the initial two partners, basically becoming the “middle-man” or “rebound”.
-Extramarital Affairs are an example of this relationship.

The ‪#‎Empty‬ Relationship
-This is the roommate/sexless relationship in which conflict is generally avoided and
is often organized around co-parenting and/or the family business.
-It may be described as a “role fulfillment” relationship (e.g., “I don’t really love him, but he is a good provider”).

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