There remains the assumption that emotional infidelity is not as egregious or damaging as a full-blown sexual affair, but this is not the case; in fact, some experts believe that emotional affairs may even be more destructive. Data indicate that since the pandemic, the incidence of emotional affairs has been on the rise. Further, a British study reported that among people who admitted to being unfaithful, most endorsed committing betrayals that did not include a sexual component. Many relationship experts contend that what constitutes infidelity is unique to each specific relationship, yet most view emotional infidelity as a reciprocal, supportive “non-sexual intimacy” outside of, and diverting attention from, one’s primary relationship (given this, the emotional affair is inherently seen as a betrayal ). The depth of intimacy that evolves in an emotional affair may be significant and ultimately akin to that of a romantic relationship. An emotional affair is distinguished from mere platonic friendship and from “micro-cheating,” which are inappropriate acts of affection outside of the primary relationship not associated with an emotional investment. Emotional affairs often begin fairly innocently, but quickly gain momentum and become secretive as standard boundaries of engagement continue to be crossed. Emotional affairs may persist for brief or long periods of time, and some do in fact function as “gateway affairs” which give rise to a sexual relationship. The causes of emotional infidelity are varied and include feeling neglected or misunderstood in one’s primary relationship as well as craving the infatuation and excitement of an emotional affair. Some writers note the need to be recognized beyond one’s ordinary roles in life as an intoxicating draw to having an emotional affair. Once revealed, the impact of emotional infidelity can be detrimental and may include “relationship PTSD.” Many primary relationships ultimately break up, while some may gradually improve as the emotional affair is understood and processed. In the next virtual meeting of the Relationship Group Seminar on Saturday, October 1, 2022 (11:45 AM to 1:00 PM), we will discuss the causes and consequences of emotional infidelity. We will consider the warning signs of emotional infidelity, as well as an internet-based quiz for determining if you may be involved in an emotional affair. The YouTube presentations “7 Signs of An Emotional Affair” and “6 Triggers That Cause Emotional Affairs” will also be reviewed.

*Registration Directions: If you would like to attend the next virtual meeting of the Relationship Group Seminar on Saturday, October 1, 2022, 11:45 AM to 1:00 PM, please RSVP to me at 949-338-4388 or jt@jamestobinphd.com no later than Thursday, September 29, 2022. The fee is $25.00 (payable before entering the virtual meeting) and informed consent for participation in this telehealth event must be completed prior to the seminar. Please note that the Relationship Group Seminar is psychoeducational in nature, not therapeutic, and does not constitute psychotherapy or counseling.