Trauma-bonding refers to an unconscious attachment strategy that may occur in many types of relationships, including those in the romantic, work, and familial domains. The fundamental dynamic at the core of the trauma-bond is one partner’s adaptational/accommodating response to the other partner’s abuse, manipulation, coercion and/or exploitation. Psychologically, the trauma-bond is difficult to recognize because it becomes intrinsically rewarding and affirming. Individuals who are vulnerable to trauma-bonding are often characterized as “codependent,” i.e., they have experienced developmental histories in which they were not encouraged to assert their own boundaries or maintain their own independence when in relationships. In the podcast episode “Trauma Bonding vs. True Love,” John Kim characterizes the distinguishing features of attraction and chemistry that create the addictive quality of the trauma-bond. Ingrid Clayton, Ph.D. describes the paradoxical nature of the strong relational connection that can occur with a person who is abusive yet, at times, also the source of relief, comfort, and even support. Trauma-bonding is a common occurrence when in relationship with narcissistic partners; due to the intensity of this relational structure, it may be very difficult for either partner to break from it. In the next virtual meeting of the Relationship Group Seminar on Saturday, November 20, 2021 (11:45 AM to 1:00 PM), we will explore trauma-bonding. 

*Registration Directions: If you would like to attend the next virtual meeting of the Relationship Group Seminar on Saturday, November 20, 2021, 11:45 AM to 1:00 PM, please RSVP to me at 949-338-4388 or jt@jamestobinphd.com no later than Thursday, November 18, 2021. The fee is $25.00 (payable before entering the virtual meeting) and informed consent for participation in this telehealth event must be completed prior to the seminar. Please note that the Relationship Group Seminar is psychoeducational in nature, not therapeutic, and does not constitute psychotherapy or counseling.