Dr. James Tobin Ph.D. - Psychologist
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Dr. Tobin regularly publishes blog articles and posts information and writings by other authors on various issues including child development and adolescence, parenting, romantic love, men and masculinity, the psychotherapy process, the training and supervision of psychologists, sexual compulsivity and addiction, and organizational culture and change. If there is a topic you would like Dr. Tobin to feature, please email him directly at jt@jamestobinphd.com.
Identity in Motion: What Tectonic Plates Can Teach Us about the Human Condition
A Session with Laura It is an early Friday morning. Not yet the end of winter, the marine layer hovers above the Pacific Ocean, concealing the sun. Though I am wearing a light sweater, I find myself still a bit chilled as I listen to Laura*, a psychotherapy...
The Programming of Our Relational Lives
Why do we do what we do in our relationships, often to our own detriment, even when we know what we're doing is self-sabotaging? The answer is that we are literally "programmed" to act in ways that are, in essence, automatic -- and we can't help ourselves....
The Loss of Sexual Passion in Couples
The maternal instinct is so strong that it is inevitable that a woman will treat her male lover from this instinct. For most women, this is not really a problem at all and, in fact, even bolsters their sense of intimacy and connection with their partners. In fact,...
What Is “Interdependence?”
At their core, most romantic relationship problems involve conflictual dynamics having to do with the fear of fusion (i.e., anxiety concerning becoming “one”/fearing dependency and union) vs. the fear of independence (i.e., anxiety that involving remaining separate...
The Silent Epidemic of “Self-Estrangement” Among Today’s Adolescents and Young Adults
As a volunteer alumnus interviewer, I notice it when speaking with high school seniors who are applying for admission to my alma mater. I experience it in everyday life in my community. And I observe it most notably in my work as a clinical psychologist in...
What Is Your Attachment Style
Having trouble figuring out what's wrong in your relationships? Learn what your attachment style is and what role it plays in your relationships.http://conta.cc/1zYEEZl
Attachment vs. Relatedness
In this talk, I attempt to distinguish attachment vs. relatedness (mature erotic love or adult relationships). Essentially, attachment is parent-child bonding, i.e., as children we learn to adapt to our caregiver so that we can get what we want as we are entirely...
9 Types Of Dysfunctional Relationships
The #Polarized Relationship: -Roles, feelings, and behaviors are polarized. EXAMPLE: one feels more and more dependent and craves connection, the other craves separation and independence. The #Flip-Flop Relationship: -You adopt the role of your lover in a...